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Fulfilling Purpose and Epiphany For Empath

I was managing a dinner cruise on a yacht that I work on when I am not doing my healing business at my house or doctor’s office yesterday, yet my healing skills came of use on this day.

One of the customers on board got a severe case of vertigo and when she went to get up she felt like she was going to pass out so she layed herself down on the floor and threw up some. This is when I was notified and asked for a pan. I got that for her and she said she was so sorry and explained that she gets vertigo so bad that it causes her to pass out sometimes and she said she feels like she is going to pass out now. I immediately go into healer mode and I start rubbing on an acupoint for vertigo. I can feel her pulse is racing and she is sweating. I tell her to take some deep breaths and just allow herself to get stabilized. I assure her that she is safe and fine and keep giving assuring words to calm her down letting her know her body is adjusting now while I am sending in healing light to her yet I do not say this because I feel they would not understand or accept it and not sure how much I could say or do as being a manager even though I am a holistic practitioner also.

I also get her a cold towel and start wiping her forehead. I soon feel her pulse and breath calming down and feel her coming back. I have the marine crew to get her a wheel chair and assure her she can take all the time she needs till she feels able to get up. She kept apologizing and I told her there is no need to apologize and that we would take care of everything. I feel she is greatly embarrassed and even though we soon got her smiling and laughing I wish I shared with her on times that I used to get dizzy and lay on floor from hypoglycemia and other health issues I used to have and voice more compassion to let her know I know how she feels which may help her not to be so embarrassed or to feel like an outcast.

However, we got the opportunity for a wow that we like to call it on the yacht. They were going to call a cab because she still did not feel up to walking all the way back. I asked where they were staying thinking that maybe we could wheel her there. The captain must have read my mind as he suggested we do exactly that. The marine crew wheeled her all the way to the Embassy suites to her room where she was staying. The man in charge of the group thanked me for doing such a great job.

Today, being an empath and not preparing myself before touching someone: I wake up feeling like I got ran over by a truck knowing it was from taking on some of what this lady was dealing with which I get has a lot more to do with than just vertigo. So, I spend all day working on cleansing this out and meditating on why. One thing I get is that I would not have felt this way if I first got into a more sacred mode and second if I voiced compassion relating more to this lady of what she was feeling; I would not have kept this unexpressed emotions inside causing me to feel so much of the pain today.

An epiphany occurs. I get that if an emapth can express the compassion that will keep the empath from keeping the pain which is a huge breakthrough on figuring out this emapthic stuff so I am grateful for that. Interestingly enough I did just began taking a course on compassionate communication. And even more interesting is that these people wrote in about me complimenting me on how I handled the situation saying how I kept rubbing her forward and showing compassion which I did show compassion yet it would be even better if I voiced it so this is indeed a great lesson for me.

I am also so honored that they felt so appreciative that they made a donation to Shriners in my name which really made me feel purposeful. It just goes to show when we invest the time with knowledge, self care, and raising our spirituality that it will become of use no matter what job we have that helps us to fulfill our purpose.

Happiness

happiness

Here are some great things I have learned and re-learned today at a seminar about from this amazing author Mike George from England:
We are responsible for our own reality. Our best happiness comes from within and this can be achieved by doing acts of kindness for another.
We grow up believing we are responsible for others happiness and we spend a large bit of life seeking approval from others and calling it love. This creates dysfunctional relationships and co-dependency. This delays true happiness.

Two  Kinds of happiness

1. Capacity to be content
This is to be unmoved by anything in the world. We can achieve this by changing our perception and realize that everything happens perfectly. When we judge we lose our peace instantly. When we are in a state of wanting it takes out the state of contentment. The bottom line is judging, wanting, and expecting sabotages contentment.

2. Living out purpose of Life

We are living out our purpose of life all the time. It is pretty much impossible not to live our purpose.We come here to create our life. However, we cannot create if we are in victim mode. I would like to add to follow what we are passionate about. If you ever got lost in something you love doing and lost track of time then you may have found what your passion is.

Most people may ask how can I find happiness instead of “Why am I not happy?” The answer is because I am not free inside. When we become trapped we lose our joy, bliss, etc.

7 Things that create feelings of being trapped:

1. Position (job, wife etc), 2. Power, 3.Pay, 4. Possessions, 5. People, 6. Prestige, 7. Privileges

We lose ourselves all too often in consciousness of these things. They are only ideas in the mind. For example, We find out that someone took a coin and scratched our new car. The ideas put in the mind may be disastrous if we let it and we could end up mistaking our self for the car creating pain for our self. We are not our car. It is best to lose ideas of attachment and possession. Am I my car? Am I my job etc?  Mine possession creates a fear of losing it and keeps us out of happiness.

3 emotions most create everyday:

1. Sadness leads to loss

2. Anger leads to blame

3. Fear leads to it will happen again

What we can do when we have these emotions is to first realize that we are having them and that we are doing them to our self. What beliefs are creating traps and keeping me from being happy? The word believe can be broken down to be lie to self which better put is what lie did I create to myself?

Have more self awarenss

Back to the example of the scratched car. First become aware that the car has been scratched, become aware of damage, become aware that you are upset, become aware of the attachment you have to the car and how you are letting it sabotage your happiness. How do we set our self free from this? The answer is to realize that everything happens just as it was meant to. Might I add my own words is how we can see this as an opportunity for growth to learn how to not be attached to material things. It is best to create an attitude that it does not matter what happens. I know I am fine no matter what.

What do we do when we see others making mistakes?

First of all, why are you seeing this as something you feel that they should not be doing instead of seeing it as happening perfectly? I will add again my own insights that we cannot fully know the light without first experiencing the dark. I know that it is hard to watch love ones go through some tough times as I have been there and done that, but sometimes we just got to let go and accept it as perfect for their purpose to eventually know the light of it. When they have had enough or finally get the insight; they will seek help and/or simply move on. We must also know to set boundaries to not let us get mixed into it and drain us and to be taken advantage of. Mike goes on to say: “Do not get wrapped up in creating other people’s lives-let them create their own.” I as a healer and health coach have a hard time in knowing when to use my purpose of helping others and when to leave it be. I guess I can only offer what I do when felt called upon and leave it up to them to come to me when they are ready.

What to do when you see another persons circumstances affecting you?

It is not what another does; it is how you react to it that matters. No one can make you feel anything unless you let it. I say stop giving your power away to others to control how you feel. Mike says untrap the image and you will feel great. Practice. Practice. Practice. I say visualize the outcome you desire and stop focusing on what you don’t want and the lack. This is your chance to be an actor. Put the feeling and thoughts into it creating what you desire. Mike says do not feed the flame of victim hood. Who is responsible for your feelings? That is right. You are and no one else.

Getting mixed up into moments of pleasure. There are types of things outside of us that we use to create moments of pleasure. These are not sustainable and there is always a low point. We will eventually need more and more stimulation and it will become more draining than fulfilling. This is a sign of misusing energy.

When we are curious that is when the ego disappears. Leaders do not wait for permission; they just do what they need to do. Plant the seed of truth. And may I add that Love is all there is; all else is an illusion.

I highly recommend getting a book from Mike George for greater details. I just bought “Being Your Self”

I also do amazing work on releasing beliefs that no longer serve us, holistic coaching, and various other modalities to dissolve illusion. Check it out on my new website that is still a work in progress: yesthrive.com

I also just started my own meetups to do some teachings just like this along with some amazing exercises to feel good now. You can become a member of my meetup for free here:meetup.com/yesthrive.

Listen to a radio show I was on: Holistically Speaking here: http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/49173549

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Act of Kindness

actofkindnessI am feeling pressed for time and for replenishing my finances today when all of a sudden a challenge is placed before me on how to be. I have so many things going on and desires I am working on like getting my healing business going by myself, setting up workshops, writing a book, and trying to work out the best plan to maintain my own health, spend time with loved ones, and do all the daily chores of keeping up a house and too much more to list of the things I would like to do and how to work all this in around my job. I find myself asking how I will get the time and money to do all of this, yet knowing I must have faith for it all. With all this said, as I run a quick trip to Wal-mart, or so I thought at this time that it would be quick because I wanted to get home to attend to the forest growing in my back yard, clean up the mess from my granddaughter, and get some things done on my long list before my client comes to me for a session then this test of faith happens.

As  I place my distilled water and organic veggies in my car, this man approaches me in a wheelchair asking if I would help him get something to eat. Without hesitation, I say yes and we go back into Wal-mart. He is looking at packages of sausage to cook. I ask why would he want to put that into his body? He says this is what he has always been eating. I tell him if he wants his body to work better then he must take care of it by putting better things into it. I also inform him that I am not buying all of his groceries, but I will be happy to get him a meal. I suggest a salad already made up and he choices a seafood one along with some veggie rolls and asks for some fruit punch. I get him that too praying for it all to be purified, nutritious, and fulfilling for him.

As we are in line, I ask how long he has been in a wheelchair and he tells me many years from a diving accident. He seems very surprised that I not only am buying this for him, but that I am showing interest in him. He tells me that people don’t do this kind of stuff for people and that he feels a peace about me and asking how I am like this. I explain I was much different 3 yrs ago and how I could barely move and was struggling to survive. I sense that he is in victim consciousness and I begin coaching him. I tell him that he has the power within him to be healed of anything and anything is possible including for him to walk again.  I see the doubt in his eyes. I show him how I looked 3yrs ago and can see the look of shock on his face. He asked me how much did it cost me to look as good as I do now. I tell him the HEAL technique helped me the most and described how I paid for a treatment and then paid for classes etc. He is like no how much did the surgery cost. I say I did not have any surgery. He is amazed and intrigued to learn more.

I describe my story which is long and miraculous, but I will save that for another post maybe in about.me.  Anyways, I start to see the hope in his eyes that has been long gone. I start to help him realize that God loves him, sees him as worthy and deserving of great things and wishes for him to see this for himself. I felt like my heart may just burst when he asked me if I thought he would be able to go to heaven. This man felt so unworthy of himself that he thought God would not even accept him. How sad is this? Who has taught him this? I tell him that God accepts everyone and does not deny anyone into heaven. I tell him God sees him as a perfect creation of him and that God does not judge him and for him to stop judging himself. I give him the whole spiel about how we are meant to make mistakes because we can not fully know the light without first experiencing the dark and so on. It makes me feel so good beyond words to help someone realize this and to make such a big difference in his life. I go on to teach him how to pray effectively and give him my card to call on me. However,  I make it clear that he is not to become dependent on me for his needs and to turn to God and to practice having faith. It started to pour the rain and he was like how am I even to make it to the bus in this rain. I tell him this is a great opportunity to practice his faith and pray. He prays “please make it stop raining.” I tell him that it is more effective to pray for something as if you already have it so trade please for thank you. Second of all, take out the rain because that means you are still focusing on the rain and what we focus on is what we attract. So, an effective way to pray is to say “thank you God for this beautiful weather, thank you sun for shining on me, thank you for getting me home dry.” Also, words are not enough we must put the feeling of what we wish with it. Create the feeling within like it is already granted. He comments on the rain a few more times as I keep reminding him to visualize how he would like the weather to be. He is starting to get it. The dark clouds reveal a beautiful blue sky and we talk some more in the parking lot with some dry weather. However, he sees the umbrella in my car and asks me for it. I give it to him telling him he will not need it if he just believes. It sprinkles on and off. I can practically hear the Universe saying make up your mind….rain or sun? This new way of thinking and being does take time and practice just like anything else.

I would love to do some sessions on this man and to help him walk again. I also know it may not do much good unless he has faith and believes it to work. I tell him how some people barely touched Jesus and became healed and how others came to Jesus, but were not healed. When people asked why Jesus replied: “too little faith”. This is one main reason why I do not like to give sessions away because I know the more someone will pay for something, the more faith they have in it, and the more they are committed into healing, the better it will work for them. I am learning how to release some of these beliefs of not even feeling deserving of being healed etc before a session. Nonetheless, I am also learning to set boundaries and to not let myself be taken advantage of. I did go back into this store spending another $20 on some necessities for this man after he tells me how he has been getting the run around on not receiving benefits. I was also shocked and disgusted when he told me our system expects him to be on narcotics to receive assistance. I was pleased that he was not on drugs. Let us pray for most benevolent outcome on this and for this man. Anyways, he also asks me to get him a month bus pass. I am starting to feel that he is becoming too dependent on me and starting to take advantage of me. I heart test if it is of highest best choice for me to get him the pass and I get a no. I offer to give him a ride, but this is not possible with wheelchair so I do give him $5 for now and tell him to have faith that he shall always be provided for. I do a spiritual mind treatment (powerful prayer) with him and leave him with hope and an opportunity to turn to God and practice his faith.

I leave being fulfilled with such a great sense of purpose…..having such a great indescribable feeling of knowing I made the highest choices……. and that I now too have an opportunity to practice my faith on time and finances. I feel this is the way to be and I like to spread this saying of “way to be” around the world. I invite you to say way to be anytime you see someone doing something of greatness. This could be simple little things like opening the door for someone and I invite you to start doing these things yourself. You may have to praise yourself with the words way to be till this gets going or when no one is around. Isn’t it about time we stop criticizing our self…. and start praising our self……..and to be the change we wish to see? If you enjoyed this post and agree please share. Way to be to those that do. Love you!

Janie Ambrose

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